Starlight Coaching

Emotional Freedom technique:

Just wanted to share with you that I am so excited since \i started to combine in my coaching the EFT : emotional freedom technique.

my clients say they really benefit from that and are so excited how simple and easy it is- and more than that: it is a tool for them to take home for life and use whenever needed.

more details will follow…now back to work!

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Okay, so you’re single. You may have broke up with your partner, or they may have broke up with you… and honestly I’m not sure which one is worse, but I know one thing, when it’s over, it’s over. You’ve got to accept it, wear it like a piece of clothing. You’re single… but relax.

It may come as a big shock at first, especially if you’ve just came out of a long term, loving, lake side walk, romantic meal, whole day in bed relationship. All of a sudden you’re on your own, all you can hear is love songs on the radio, all you see is your friends happy in their relationships, your bed is a cold, cold place, and your phone never goes off.

There doesn’t seem much of reason to get up out of bed any more. You can’t stop thinking of your ex, but he or she won’t reply to your messages or answer your calls. It seems everything is lost. But as Maximo Park say – “What happens when you lose everything, you just start again!”

So starting again is it daunting? Maybe, but also very exciting. Now you’re all on your own. I’ll quote another saying from Fight Club – “Only when you lose everything, can you be everything” just to give you some inspiration, because you’re going to need it.

Is it time to have a new haircut? Maybe shave it all off in your madness, or grow it longer than you’ve had it before. What about a crazy Mohawk, or a bright orange dye. Who’s going to tell you you’re wrong for doing so? You’re your own boss now.

Listen to music you haven’t listened to in years, stay up late and watch repeats of that program you used to watch when you were a teenager, go out with your single friends again “on the pull”.

That person at work you have always had a crush on but never really spoke to because you “were being silly”… and “loved your partner too much for anything to happen”… well now, guess what? It’s time to start being daring. Go for it, you deserve it.

You should join some dating sites like dating direct or girls date for free, and meet a few people. Nothing serious, find friends, find out what you like, find out about yourself.

The possibilities now are endless, and you should take advantage of them. You should take your mind off the heartbreak by starting a new hobby, or perusing an old hobby. Be it singing, starting a band, golfing or being a fashion designer, the world is your oyster.

Talking about worlds and oysters, how about you go travel, or go on a year long adventure! You have no ties at home, or at least no other half that can tell you that horrible word… no. Check out these travelling ideas.

So you should share my optimism for the single life, and know that one day you’ll meet someone else. Life isn’t a fairy tale, things don’t always work out… and life is too short to get hung up about failed relationships, or desperately trying to find another “one”.

Next time you meet someone be absolutely sure before you enter the relationship seriously, because you’ll be enjoying your single life to give it up so easily.

The missing link or…what stops you from making the changes in your life that you say that you need?

 How many times have you said, “I need a change”?  How many times have you heard others say the same?

So what stops us from making a change?

 I would like to call it – “the missing link”…between the insight (of a problem) and taking action (to effect change).

 Of course, the reason for the missing link varies for each of us; it is the result of different personalities, different cultures and backgrounds, different life-stories, events and traumas.

 Many times our actions are based on beliefs and assumptions that we have accumulated over a lifetime; unfortunately, we repeat behaviours based on these beliefs even when these behaviours do not work for us.  But the familiarity and security of these repetitive behaviours overshadow our judgment.

 So how can we overcome all of the above and still make effective change?  In my view, we can take baby steps to avoid being overwhelmed.

 I mentioned earlier that baby steps can fill the missing link between insight and effective change.

 Here’s an example of how one woman changed her life just by taking baby steps…

 One of my past clients was really stuck.  I noticed that at each session she wore the same color (varying tones of the same colors, but always one particular color).  So even though this color was safe and familiar, I suggested that she wear a different color.  Her initial response was shock!  In spite of her objections, I encouraged her to take this initial baby step.  I just guessed it – this small act was necessary in order for her to push herself out of stagnation.

 Once she introduced more colors into her wardrobe, she did the same with other aspects of her life.

 Baby steps…that lead to other effective changes in her life.

 Small actions…that lead to big changes.

 So, what is the baby step that you need to take to effect a major change?  Any thoughts?